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Thursday, December 1, 2011

Letting People Be There for Us

From The Language of Letting Go. I REALLY liked this and wanted to share it. I'm going to post a Hazelden link at the side of the page. I love their site and what they do.

"Sometimes, we need nurturing. Sometimes, we need people to support us.

Many of us have been deprived of support and nurturing for so long we may not realize it's something we want and need. Many of us have learned to block our stop ourselves from getting what we want and need.

We may not reach out to have our needs met. We may be in relationships with people who cannot or will not be available to meet our needs. Or we may be in relationships with people who would be happy to respond to a direct request from us.

We may have to give up something to do this. We may have to let go of our martyr or victim role. If we ask for what we want and need, and get those needs met, we will not be able to punish people, or push them away later on, for disappointing us.

We may have to let go of our fears enough to experience the intimacy that will occur when we allow someone to love and support us. We may even have to learn, one day at a time, how to be happy and content.

Learn to let others be there for us.

Today, I will be open to identifying what I need from people, and I will ask for what I want directly. I will let others be there for me."

Goodnight, all!

1 comment:

  1. Oh Jay, this is sooo good! We tend to push away those who love us the most. I know how much I have appreciated you being there for me. We now have a bond stronger than ever!
    I have had to learn to let people in too. I have to remind myself that "You are only as sick as your secrets". I am very careful who let in to those very intimate places in my life. But it is so healing to let those we trust in.
    I get so excited when I start to think of all the things God has in store for you.
    I love you!