Cupcake Revisited

Given my new lease on life, and endeavoring to reconnect with my beloved Sarah, I thought I'd repost this classic.

My sponsor said it might not be a good idea to talk too much about relationship stuff on my blog. This is something that has been weighing very heavily on me lately, so I feel that it would help to write about it. I'll try to make this the only full post I devote to what's going on.

About a month and a half ago I made a serious mistake. I let something that I had no business touching come between me and someone I love very very much. And it wasn't the first time. We were already sleeping apart with the understanding that I would be looking for another place. This came from another misadventure of mine not too long previously. Why I kept doing it, I don't know. I was a slave to alcohol, a dry drunk when sober, and too damn hard-headed to get real help. I did good things too. Don't get me wrong. Not all times were bad, but the person that I had turned into was not the real Jay. I was self-absorbed and only concerned with me. I had become miserable and it was no one's fault but my own, even though I tried to blame her. I said alot of things that I certainly didn't mean (and would certainly never say again).

We've been apart since then. She hasn't talked to me and I don't blame her.

Since I jumped headfirst into recovery, and have made real progress, I've regained my senses. Haven't had those in a while. With a clear head, it all started coming back. Why I love her. What I should've been doing all along and what I can be doing for her now. I'm sorry, Sweety, but I can't erase the past. I can, however, be the person you need right now and for as long as you'll let me. If it isn't too late.

I made her very sad for a very long time, and I would be honored if she would give me the opportunity to spend my life making it up to her.

What makes it even worse is that she's having a very difficult time. Several things have happened almost all at once (including me). All I want to do is hold her and try to get us through things together. Even from a distance, when she's hurting, I'm hurting. Trust me, there's no more helpless feeling in the world when someone you love is in a crisis and wont even let you in. I should be her rock through this, the one she turns to. But I effed it all up.

Like I said. I can be now. I'm getting myself back and I want to give it all to her. I don't think she reads this, but if she does...

I'm offering you a healthier, better me, Cupcake. And I swear to you that Jay is never going anywhere again unless it's by your side. I promised you something earlier tonight, and, whether you are talking to me or not, I'm going to keep that promise.